Club Rules
The Golden Rule: “NO means NO”. Anyone may say “NO” for any reason at any time. Yes, even in the middle of some hot and heavy play. If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say “No” or just stop and regroup your self. The friendliest way is to say, “oh no thank you, but thanks for asking”. Let people know Ahead of time what you are ok with to avoid any misshaps.
Always treat one another with respect. After all, this is a party!!!! Besides, you don’t want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldn’t want it to happen to you. If a single gentleman talks to you and you are interested in swinging with couples only, that doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to him. He’s a person just like you! Just politely let him know.
If you are rejected (and it happens to everyone, including women), Do NOT take personal offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, and it’s almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right.
Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.
Always let your steady partner know she/he is number one. Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often, it makes one feel secure. And always leave together.
Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. Be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive. Swingers, couples & single guys are people and have feelings too!!!
Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.
Make guidelines before you come to the club but most importantly respect those guidelines once you start playing. Trying to change any preset guidelines as you go along will just end up making someone feel uneasy and will probably ruin the situation at hand. Don’t forget to communicate your guidelines to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming new relationships! And please don’t forget to respect the guidelines of others. Don’t try to “talk anyone into” changing there guidelines because you dont agree.
Body language is very important. Body language can be more important then words in this life style. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or comfortable. Remember its not all about your wants you have to understand there wants also for this to work out for the best.
